Searching for God in Fallbrook
Tuesday, July 8, 2014
What beauty tells us about glorifying God
Thursday, May 15, 2014
The issue isn't whether Peter Sam deserves to be famous. The issue is how you define "rights."
I agree but the devil's in the details. A right to free speech is well defended for everyone. A right to marry and have it recognized by the state is not, but not everyone agrees that's a right. I still don't get why even bigots complain when gay people want to pay taxes, whether they file jointly or not.
The right to have a job regardless of your minority - religion or sexual identity - is supposed to be guarded, but it's not for bigots or gay people employed by bigots. That's a sticky wicket.
It'd be nice if the Founding Fathers were more clear. Jefferson's pen guaranteed us all a right to "life liberty and the pursuit of happiness" and that "all men are created equal." Whether he intended it or not, those words were later expanded to include blacks and women, despite protests by conservatives in the 19th century.
Will today's conservatives look as silly in 150 years as Civil War conservatives look today, their intolerance so out of fashion? I don't know.
Here's a devil's advocate argument. If the right to marry is a fundamental right, then it ought to apply to homosexuals. It was hard for interracial couples to get married 150 or even 50 years ago, but we think that's horrid now. Or is that fundamental right limited to marrying per God's standard for sexual behavior? Weren't all men (people) created equal? Not just all Christians, for if we said so we would be promoting the "some are more equal than others" argument from Lincoln's era.
And if the right to marry is NOT a fundamental right, then perhaps we heterosexual couples have no right to expect the state to recognize it. Perhaps we have no right to demand or expect we be recognized as couples anymore on our taxes or wills or custody papers. The frightening conclusion is that if we limit the definition of marriage to the Christian definition, then we are letting one religion define the law of the land and breaching the wall between church and state without saying so. I think you'd call that a faulty appeal to tradition.
Friday, April 12, 2013
The Tree of Life
I had an illustration appear in my mind today, as a result of several books I'm reading including Stephen Covey's Seven Habits and Breaking Free. Also, I heard a sermon about Adam and Eve just the other day. Let's call this the Tree of Life.
At the bottom are roots, in God, because he created everything and all we do is use it. Breaking Free posits that sex is such a strong snare and negative influence on our lives because God created it, designed it to keep marriages together, fulfill us as much as any human relationship can and to perpetuate our families. Our roots are needs built by God, needs for relationship with him and with good, godly people.
But between the roots and fruits is a trunk: free will. Between our influences and our reactions is our choice of how to respond, as Covey says, our free will, the trunk for this tree.
Now even though Man was begun with the best intentions and such great capabilities, part of our tree is diseased. From Adam and Eve, we all inherit the sin nature that Satan introduced in the Garden. There is a black part of each trunk which is producing bad fruit in our lives. It feels natural because it's always been there. It feels good because it's based on those root needs God created.
That's why we need constant gardening from Jesus, because he can see us inside and out. He can heal these trees in a way no tree can heal itself.
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Hello; A thought on putting God first in your marriage
Today, thinking in the middle of a worship song as I often do, I wrote down some questions for my mentor. I haven't settled on one yet, but am seeking counsel from several good Christian men in my circle. I should have done it younger, but didn't know enough or hadn't had enough prodding inside to do so.
One of the questions, one which gave my friend Gordie pause, was "How do you put God before your spouse?" I had read a fairly good, Christian post on how marriage lights your impurities on fire. I definitely believe this, and it's attested in the Sexy Christians book.
I didn't find an answer to that question, per se, but an answer came to me for "Why put God before your spouse": Because we cannot live without love for a second and our spouse can't always provide it. Jesus CAN. And we don't have the strength to even come close to meeting our spouse's needs without God's support. So, even when we can't draw close to out spouse, especially then, we need to draw close to Jesus.
A couple great visualizations are in the book Breaking Free by Russell Willingham. One, from Zephaniah 3:17 and Isaiah 66:13, is that Jesus loves us like a mother singing her child to sleep. Another offered is Jesus as our best friend, who is always ready beside the hearth.
If your relationship with your spouse is at the expense of our relationship with God, especially through Jesus, your marriage will fail like so many. If you don't put God first, if you don't let Jesus meet your needs, they won't be met. You can't do it, nor can your spouse, nor can your job, nor can your ministry, nor any combination of those. Only Jesus can.
Now, I'm ready to just pray. I want to put Jesus first, and conceptually I can see "How" but it will take a long time to teach my heart, I think.
Lord God, Jesus, please help me learn to let you meet me needs, so that I can be so much more for all the people who need me. Amen.